Thursday, July 19, 2018

How to overcome the fear of rejection | face your fear



Introduction

The Fear of Rejection In general

We face a lot of fears in our lives. We fear something. These fears have their origin. It is a result of bad experiences in the past. Surely it is a very uncomfortable experience, painful and shocking. As the years go by, you keep avoiding things that may be similar incidents and be very very cautious of not going into that kind of situation again. It will affect the way we think and the way we act. It can also be extended to the way we deal with our relationships with friends, families, and other people we meet every day.

The fear of rejection is a common yet formidable obstacle that can hinder personal and professional growth. Whether it stems from past experiences, societal pressures, or innate insecurities, this fear has the potential to paralyze individuals, preventing them from pursuing opportunities and realizing their full potential. However, by understanding its roots and employing effective strategies, it is possible to overcome this fear and embrace a life of empowerment and resilience.

Understanding the Fear of Rejection:

At its core, the fear of rejection is rooted in the instinctual desire for acceptance and belonging. Humans are social beings, wired to seek approval and validation from others. Rejection, whether real or perceived, threatens this fundamental need, triggering feelings of inadequacy, shame, and unworthiness.

Moreover, past experiences of rejection can exacerbate this fear, creating a cycle of avoidance and self-doubt. Whether it's a romantic rejection, a professional setback, or a social snub, these experiences leave emotional scars that can linger long after the initial incident.

Strategies to Overcome the Fear of Rejection:

  1. Cultivate Self-Compassion

  2. Recognize that experiencing rejection is a natural part of life, and it does not diminish your worth as a person. Practice self-compassion by treating yourself with kindness and understanding, especially in moments of vulnerability.


  3. Challenge Negative Beliefs

  4. Identify and challenge negative beliefs about rejection that may be holding you back. Instead of viewing rejection as a reflection of your inherent flaws or shortcomings, reframe it as an opportunity for growth and learning.


  5. Set Realistic Expectations

  6. Understand that not everyone will share your perspective or appreciate your efforts, and that's okay. Set realistic expectations for yourself and others, and accept that rejection is a normal part of the human experience.


  7. Build Resilience

  8. Cultivate resilience by developing coping mechanisms to navigate setbacks and disappointments. Engage in activities that promote emotional well-being, such as mindfulness meditation, exercise, or creative expression.


  9. Practice Assertiveness

  10. Assertiveness is the antidote to the fear of rejection. By expressing your thoughts, feelings, and needs authentically and respectfully, you empower yourself to advocate for what you want without fear of judgment or rejection.


  11. Celebrate Courageous Action

  12. Acknowledge and celebrate your courage every time you confront the fear of rejection and take action despite it. Whether it's asking for a raise, expressing your feelings to a loved one, or pursuing a new opportunity, every step forward is a triumph of resilience and self-empowerment.


  13. Seek Support

  14. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who uplift and encourage you. Whether it's friends, family, or a therapist, having a strong support system can provide validation and perspective during challenging times.

On The Business Aspect



On the business side, this can also be considered one of the major reasons why people are not going in this direction. They may have found comfort in their day-to-day job and end-of-month salaries. Satisfied, living within their means, and relying on what will come each day. 
The majority will really agree, therefore, any people who are doing the business, especially Direct Selling, will experience so much force to not pursue their journey. It is all against the odds, just like going in the opposite direction where the majority of people look for a JOB instead of looking for a Business to start.
As a beginner, this scenario can also cause you to FEAR. The most familiar is the Fear of REJECTION!

How do you face your fear?

If you are new to Direct Selling, you will really face the greatest REJECTION of all. People you are going to deal with are not open to such kind of opportunities and oftentimes you will be regarded as a SCAMMER. Don't let this force control you or stop you. It is the acid test for the business because you are dealing with the MINDSET programmed differently from yours. 
Just like dealing with electricity, for example, you cannot mix 110 volts to 220 volts. It will really explode. That is the kind of Rejection you are going to face. But if you learn the business and know how they think, you will understand the reason behind it and know the right candidate to invite and know how you can deal with them. Just like fear, Fear has brought people a lot of defense mechanisms so that when they encounter seemingly similar situations, they can be on guard all the time. 

Rejection deals with your emotions. Most people starting with this kind of business who have not learned to face these oftentimes get more likely to quit. 

Learning the business means you have to understand the ABC basics. New Distributors are advised to attend the training in NDO (New Distributors Orientation). So that they will know the deepest purpose of why you are doing the business. This is a completely different kind of business that will have to face the most difficult tasks because you are going to go against the odds. 

People are usually overwhelmed by the Marketing Plan and are looking ahead of time for Success. Realizing that this is a real business. We need real work which may require hard work and smart work. Like any other business, it does not come overnight. The road ahead will be long. Keeping yourself focused on the deepest and most compelling reason why we are doing the business will help us reach the end of the tunnel.

Every successful ending has a painful Story. Let those painful stories serve as an inspiration and the Successes be the motivation for those who are getting started. You are not alone in this venture. You have those successful people looking at you and giving their helping hand because they know what it is that we are going through, They have found the right formula for Success. Which, they want you to know and understand, that is, Overcoming your greatest FEAR!

Looking Deeply

Fear is not actually to be feared at all! Fear is developed within us because this is a result of our past failures. It deals with our emotions and, oftentimes. dwelling with it may lead us to become passive and conclusive to what is not known. Our past failure becomes our guiding principle to never want to do any venture anymore. When you fail in one company, it does not mean you will fail again in another company. Let those experiences be our guide to be wise with our decision, but don't let it discourage us to not wanting to try again.
When we don't take action, we dwell much on what we feel rather than on what we want to do. Looking deeply, Fear makes us scared of something that is not really known to us because we have not overcome past failures. It really controls the way we think and the way we take action or no action at all. 

How do we define FEAR now?


FEAR can be defined as False Emotion Appearing Real. When we think of something that is not happening, and we fear, that is just an emotion. It appears to be real because we have already placed in our thoughts that this is true.
The next time we encounter our fear, two things may lead us. 

We may FEAR - Face Everything And Run or 
we may FEAR - Face Everything And Rise! 

Which one will you choose?

If you want to become successful, starting your journey will give you a lot of learning inspiration from those who have overcome their greatest FEAR. They managed to face their emotions, and are now enjoying the greatest success in their life.
If I were to ask you, which one would you follow?

Conclusion:

Overcoming the fear of rejection is not an overnight process, but with patience, persistence, and self-compassion, it is possible to break free from its grip and embrace a life of courage, authenticity, and fulfillment. By understanding the roots of this fear, challenging negative beliefs, and cultivating resilience, individuals can navigate setbacks with grace and emerge stronger and more empowered than ever before. So take that leap of faith, knowing that rejection is not a reflection of your worth, but rather an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

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